home, meditation, self help, Uncategorized

November Rain

I stood in the middle of nowhere catching the rain drops by my mouth. It was getting dark and I knew it was time to go home but where is home? My thoughts were rushing through bits and pieces of old childhood memories capturing every single house I lived in, which one of them could I call home? My father left when I was six, not having a home we moved to another country. My stepfather disappeared right at the end of high school, I moved to a bigger city for college. Not much to miss as the house we were living in was one of the most restrictive places for a teen spirit. It hasn’t changed much so I keep wondering why do I have to belong somewhere where I actually FEEL at home?

The time between Halloween and Thanksgiving is always full of vague memories and nostalgia. The spooky reality of past and bright promises of the future leave you always somewhere in between, in limbo. Living your dreams between the cultures and countries, childhood and adulthood, seriousness and serenity, idleness and productivity, beginning and end. Black and white reality gets boring more than anything else and the only escape is to create, to make something brand new.

The process of creating is healing in itself since you lose touch with time and place, liberating your brain and helping your body to get rid of stress and worry only about the final outcome. The art of knitting or painting can be highly appreciated in anticipation of the holiday season. The gift of writing is also greatly needed to be able to compose those Christmas letters that only happen once a year. Crafts will come in handy to decorate your place for the whole month to enjoy. They say that home is where you make it, sounds like one has to be quite a maker after all.

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love, meditation, self help, Uncategorized, wellness

Power

Knowledge is power they say… But ignorance is bliss. I love being blissfully ignorant sometimes and I think it saves a lot of positive energy and faith. On the other hand, my addiction to know it all, does it do me any good?

Being educated, well read and well travelled is considered to be great. Why then our system of education is getting weaker and weaker every year, forgive my rant, teachers will always be teachers. It’s funny that we think we are smart but can we make a living?

Not knowing everything is actually a blessing. You have to depend more on others and trust their judgement. And, of course, no one is perfect, so you would have to forgive others for their false views and opinions. This part here is a bit uncomfortable. This is why we want to be gods knowing everything and never making any mistakes. How about forgiving yourself then? Since we don’t know everything we do get ourselves in trouble otherwise there is no way we could be doing anything in life ever.

So what is real power? If it’s not knowledge than maybe it’s forgiveness or generosity… Or wisdom, not sure how to define this one. Anyway, we all want to be powerful this way or the other.

inspiration, learning, motivation, self help, Uncategorized

Design your life

What makes up your day? Mine consists of so many little things that I can hardly keep all of them in mind. Sometimes it’s hard to tell which one is a game changer. Think about

  • Food and exercise
  • People you deal with
  • Music, books and movies
  • Social networks
  • Living conditions

To make your life better you need to grab the bull by the horns and be responsible for your own happiness. Give up your fears and start living the dream!

  1. Buy / make decent food, plan a week in advance
  2. Walk / run 30-40 minutes a day, do other fitness activities if you like
  3. Minimize time with irritating people, maximize positive exposure
  4. Be selective with the books / movies you enjoy, pick the inspirational ones
  5. Hide / unfollow negative posts / people online. Time yourself while in cyberspace
  6. Make your home comfy: clean, fix and declutter as much as you can
  7. Love what you get, get what you love

The process of designing your life can take longer than you think. I started 2-3 years ago, some changes are obvious and some are still in progress, I wish it could be done overnight but it’s a process.

inspiration, meditation, morning, motivation, self help, Uncategorized

Good morning!

How to make your day better? Start with a winner morning. I am pretty sure you have heard this before. Well, summer is here which is honestly a perfect timing for kicking off a new habit. Here is a few things I plan to do myself cause you never know… It might actually work 🙂

  1. Mind your head before minding your feet. It’s Buddhist advice which makes you look in the mirror, comb your hair, smile at yourself and put your thoughts together before you run somewhere doing something.
  2. Meditate / pray or just sit quietly practicing Zazen for 20-30 minutes. Stay away from watching TV or checking your social media accounts at this point.
  3. Drink water before you have coffee or anything else. Play some music if you like.
  4. Have breakfast outside or inside. If you are not hungry in the morning, try to eat half of your meal the previous night saving the other half for the next day. Light dinner will help you sleep better and be hungry  the next morning.
  5. Keep your diary. Look back on what went well on a previous day, what could be done better next time, note lessons learned, plan and prioritize.

If you can do at least three of those every morning you will feel like a champion. Add sports/yoga activities if you like. Be good to yourself, life is too short to skip the best part of your day. Good morning!

depression, experience, inspiration, self help, Uncategorized

How to cope

Yesterday at one of my art classes somebody asked me how to cope with depression. I looked at them going How did you know? Back in the days of college, oh my… I was so excited they asked me, so happy to help and so glad I am not there any more.

Just in case you were wondering how to cope with depression

  1. Eat. Seriously eat something real, not just doughnuts and ice-cream.
  2. Go outside, get some vitamin D while the sun is still shining. No gadgets, please.
  3. Ask for help. Don’t just suffer in silence. It can be a friend or a stranger, up to you.
  4. Engage yourself in art of drawing, cooking, singing, dancing or knitting.
  5. Find a Meetup group for something you always wanted to do but never got a chance to actually try.
  6. Write a letter or card to somebody who deserves it, an old friend or relative.
  7. Go to public library or city park to people/dog watch. It can be real fun!

Happiness is inside us but we do need contact with others to be our better selves.

I wish you the best of luck in your daily battles!